9 Ways To Know You’re Dating A Woman, Not A Girl
On paper, women and girls are generally distinguished by age but experience has taught me that there’s far more to it than just a number. It takes more than age for girls to take the step into womanhood and this is as clear in the dating game as it is anywhere else. The determination is more about how they act, how they think and the way they carry themselves in love and in life. Sure, a similar dynamic occurs with men and boys so the problem works both ways.
A lot of guys will probably tell you women are a lot harder to come by than girls but if you find one then it’s your lucky day, I seem to have hit a few misses and found myself with too many ‘girls’ and not enough ‘women’ so speaking from my own truth, here are some signs to look out for.
1. Dressing sexy and sexy dresses
Girls:
Wear revealing clothes because it’ll make them look sexy and there’s a need to show skin to impress.
Women:
Dressing provocatively isn’t the way to be sexy – when you carry yourself right, it doesn’t matter what you wear…hell, you can even make pyjamas look sexy. It’s about being confident in your own skin, knowing you’re sexy and owning it.
2. Saying what she means and meaning what she says
Girls:
Expecting your partner to read your mind, sulking if they can’t (generally wont be able unless you’re dating a mind-reading superhero, so you’re onto a lose.)
Women:
Use their words to express what they mean. If you’re pissing them off, they’ll make it clear to you and probably give you directions as to how to avoid doing it again. Women don’t shy away from what they want which makes relationships much more straightforward.
3. The bill
Girls:
You’ll be immediately expected to pick up the tab – girls like to be babied and ‘looked after’ which in some senses is fine (such as on a night out or physically) but they’re your partner, not your sugar Daddy.
Women:
Although it’s still nice to be treated and have a guy pay for them at times, women are financially independent and like to make that clear by occasionally paying for herself or even both.
4. Getting wasted
Girls:
It’s all about going out and getting as wasted as you can, chugging down booze as quick as you can – who knows where you’ll end up, who cares?
Women:
Of course, women will love a drink too – but women can hold their alcohol to the level that they’ll have a great time but wont end up disgracing themselves shamelessly. It’s all about staying in control.
5. Facebook
Girls:
As soon as they get a sniff of a relationships, girls will be updating their Facebook relationship status, tagging you in pictures every other day and general bombardment of your wall.
Women:
What’s publicised on Facebook is less important, they’d rather be with you in person and they’re comfortable enough with your relationship to not need to broadcast it.
6. The art of conversation
Girls:
It all gets a bit trivial, they’d rather talk about gossip or if you trying talking global affairs or anything serious, they’re clueless.
Women:
Women are great at holding conversations and they can stimulate your mind as well as your body. They’re fascinating.
7. Eating habits
Girls:
They feel the need to eat salads around you or very little at all. It’s all about keeping up appearances.
Women:
They eat whatever the hell they want and however much of it. They obviously respect their bodies but there’s no big fuss if you want her to sit and eat a burger with you.
8. Women are go-getters
Girls:
They’ll stick to what they know and will shy away from the prospect of something different to them or challenging.
Women:
They’re experienced in life and this teaches the value of experiencing life. It’s all about being passionate and driven, seeing the world, sharing the world.
9. It’s a woman’s world
Girls:
They need looking after, looking for hand outs or expecting life to fall conveniently in their favour.
Women:
There’s literally not a thing sexier than a capable woman who can take care of herself. They get what they want and don’t need anyones help in getting it – being strong, confident and independent.
All in all, women are amazing and the appeal of girls is a thing of the past. There are probably women who fall into both categories at certain points (when the adult kicks back and the inner girl is released for a while) but this is the same with guys too. If you’re wondering if you’re in the right relationship, check out these 10 signs to determine you are.